Has someone ever asked you for advice but before you could finish speaking, they were trying to finish your sentences, or they were trying to tell you why your advice wasn’t good? Or have you ever given someone some advice (that they asked for) and they got upset with you?
What this often means is that the individual is looking for someone to agree with them, not necessarily someone that can help them fix their problem.
At the end of the day, any time you are trying to make a shift or elevate beyond what you’re accustomed to, it can be uncomfortable. Depending on your situation… it can be extremely uncomfortable.
If this is your situation, the best way to achieve your goal is to consult with people that are doing what you are doing at a higher level or someone that helps people do what you’re trying to do.
This often involves constructive criticism. Honest, constructive criticism… when properly received, can help you see things from a different perspective. I get it, being constructively critiqued on something you care about is tough. Especially if you thought you were better than you really are. But that’s the thing that makes it worthwhile.
If you are willing to listen and implement the information that is being given, it can catapult you to higher heights in your business, health, relationship, etc.
Let’s face it, none of us have all the answers. It’s important that we learn to lean on others… others that have experience or expertise in the areas we are venturing into that can help us get over hurdles along the way.
This is one of the things that separate those at the top from everyone else. Not only are they receptive to constructive criticism, but they search for it. Most people are shocked when they find out that some of the most powerful people in the world have advisors, business coaches, life coaches, mentors, consultants, etc. They always have someone breaking down their every move and offering advice on how to be better.
One of the best examples of this is sports, specifically boxing. No matter how skilled a boxer becomes, he or she has someone screaming instructions and suggestions in their ear between rounds. Their ability to receive constructive criticism during an obviously stressful moment directly affects their performance.
So, the next time you are hit with a roadblock, search for advice on ways to get better. The advice may come in the form of constructive criticism. It may be harsh, but it may also be what you need to get to the next level.